Co worker online dating

But is it really that big a deal? And there are those that believe that dating a co-worker should also be high on the list of no nos. There was a time when making moves towards a co-worker meant stopping by their desk or bumping into them accidentally on purpose in the coffee room. Luckily for us, we now have the convenience of sending an online message without the need for small talk or Dutch courage. What do you do? The answer may seem obvious — click on to the next profile, but the fact is that this person has placed their profile online for the same reason you have.

Dating in the workplace – is it OK to contact someone online

You know I would just approach it like something funny, just to get the awkwardness away. Like just hey I saw you had a OKcupid account, I do to, how has it worked out for you? Use it as something in common, like stumbling upon it and wanting to know if it's has been a good experience not like a hook up thing. You might get a more relaxed opinion. If he has a girlfriend then maybe I was on it till I met someone. OP here.

Great answer! I might even make a little joke, "Could have been worse, could have been a fetish site or something haha" to try and lighten the mood. I think we were both pretty embarrassed yesterday. Although we work in the same room he's not around me much so who knows when I'll get a chance to talk to him. But I don't want things being awkward because he's nice and it's the kind of workplace where everyone gets on and chats to one another, awkwardness isn't fun!

Hey, I ended up sending him a message on FB, explaining I'd been feeling awkward about it all and seeing him in the kitchen. He was totally cool with it, and said he'd not been feeling well that day and that was why he wasn't so chatty and he had a little joke about it all. So I think things are fine between us. If he deleted his profile, he's probably met someone.

No shame about being on a dating site. I have two girl friends who are there as well. Checked their profile, but who cares? It's just seeing a profile, and a joke to come when we meet in person. I've seen people I know on these sites before, but never co-workers. And, when I have noticed someone I know on them, there's no way I'd have looked at their profile in case they thought I'd been checking them out. The problem with OKC is that the visitors photos are tiny so you don't get a good look at them.

So he's possibly seen my pic and thought Hmm , she looks kinda cute clicked on it and then thought oh shit! Well, that's what I did with his anyway haha. Ah, don't worry anyway. There's no shame being single and looking for a partner. Don't worry about that, it's all cool. He may be as uncomforatable about the situation as you are. And he may have removed his profile not because he's dating someone but because he's embarrassed about you knowing about and checking out his online profile.

Enidega has some good ideas as to how to approach him about the situation. You shouldn't email him at work because those emails become company records. You should keep this personal and private. He certainly seemed so yesterday! I was hoping he'd just chat like we normally do but all he managed was a hi. Possibly he's more embarrassed than I am, because he was the one who started it lol. I won't email him at work, too many people around my desk anyway haha.

Lol sounds cool and way over thinking it, saw girl from pof other day chatting with my friend I just thought to call her out and be like her aren't you on the pof! He likes oral hopefully you like receiving ; Can't go wrong with that? I'm a terrible over thinker. I scrutinize every single thing. Especially when it comes to men. The thing is I don't know this guy very well, he's one of the ones I'll be "Hi, how's it going? Although it would be embarrassing regardless of who it was. Haha, maybe I should say tell him that?!

Lol, that whole thing is cute and funny. Its not a biggie, everybody who's single is on a dating site. Flirt with him and see what happends. True, it's not the "only for freaks and weirdos" outlet that it used to be. I might try joking with him about it, I'm rubbish at flirting. Even if he is a bit flirtable ;. I'll try. But he wasn't for talking yesterday. Maybe it will get easier? I just wish I'd messaged him on the site, got it over with. I hadn't counted on it being so awkward at work.

And maybe he liked my pic on the site but when he saw it was me freaked out because we work together? As I said, there's a few couples at work but could be he's against that kind of thing. I have my reservations too, but it can work sometimes. Co-worker looked at my online dating profile! I'd had about 10 visitors to my profile, so I scanned down the little pics to see if anyone caught my eye.

I thought one guy looked cute so I clicked on his profile for a nosy. Then, when I saw the larger photos I realized that I work with him I immediately clicked off his profile, embarrassed. Then, I logged off and went in again under another, anonymous, identity so I could have a proper look without him knowing it was me. But, of course he'd have seen that I'd visited his profile. I didn't see him at all for weeks as he was on Christmas holidays. But he started back this week.

I went into the kitchen today to heat up my soup. And he came in shortly after. My soup was in the microwave and I realized I didn't have a spoon. Getting one was going to involve walking past him. So, I took a deep breath and rounded the corner. He turned round as I approached and I went, "Hi! How's it going?! He just looked at me as if I'd caught him doing something he shouldn't be and went "Hi" in a flat sort of voice. It was so embarrassing.

I felt like my legs were made of jello, yanked the drawer open, grabbed a spoon and Marched off back to the microwaves. I had lunch with some other co-workers and he went back to his desk. So, that was embarrassing. I'm just glad that I didn't answer too many of the sex questions on OKCupid. He answered more of them, and more specific ones. So, I know that he loves giving oral. More awkwardness, great.

I really wish that I'd just messaged him on the site and jokingly said something along the lines of "Hi, imagine seeing you here! A couple of my friends have said "Why aren't you going to pursue it? I mean, there's several couples at work and it's not frowned upon at all, but ugh. He's kinda cute, and funny but I hadn't even thought of him in that way before.

Now I'm thinking of him all the time and wondering. And I don't even know if he likes me. I mean, he looked at my profile, but that doesn't mean anything. And although I'm funny and not unattractive I'm so dorky and awkward around guys, he could be thinking, "OMG, why did I click on her profile?! She's awful! And now she'll think I like her!

So maybe he's even dating someone. Who knows. I was even thinking maybe I should email him at work, but maybe not. This was supposed to be posted under "Behavior" but for some reason it's come under "Sexuality"? Not sure if it can be moved! Most Helpful Girl.

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#1034: “My coworker messaged me on a dating site.”

The workplace is a perfectly wonderful place to meet a person and start a romantic relationship. You have to be professional about it, of course. You can't play footsie under the conference room table and annoy your co-workers, but of course you can date a co-worker, and there's no good reason not to. At work, you get to see how a person thinks and acts. You get to see his or her sense of humor.

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When it happens at work, you have a big decision to make. Do you go forward and hope for the best? Or do you shut it down before it gets out of hand? As with any situation, it helps to consider the pros and cons of dating a coworker. Your work environment has allowed you to get to know each other as co-workers before jumping into a relationship. It might make things more exciting to have a forbidden, secret relationship at work. In the beginning, it might be amazing to be able to talk with and work with a partner who really gets it, but over time you might end up longing for a little more separation between your two lives. Again, in the beginning when you want to spend as much time together as possible, it might be amazing to go to work together, get lunch together and then go home together; but once you have been doing it for months even years , you might feel differently. Too much time together could also make the spark begin to fade.

Anyway, if I see coworkers on dating sites, I think the polite thing to do is just ignore it and move along, so I was not super into the fact that this guy messaged me but I figured he was just being kind of socially obtuse. Dude, if you realized that, why did you message me anyway and tell me that?

Getty Images. It seems like everyone and their mother — literally — is on one dating app or another these days.

Dating in the workplace – is it OK to contact someone online

You know I would just approach it like something funny, just to get the awkwardness away. Like just hey I saw you had a OKcupid account, I do to, how has it worked out for you? Use it as something in common, like stumbling upon it and wanting to know if it's has been a good experience not like a hook up thing. You might get a more relaxed opinion. If he has a girlfriend then maybe I was on it till I met someone. OP here. Great answer! I might even make a little joke, "Could have been worse, could have been a fetish site or something haha" to try and lighten the mood. I think we were both pretty embarrassed yesterday. Although we work in the same room he's not around me much so who knows when I'll get a chance to talk to him. But I don't want things being awkward because he's nice and it's the kind of workplace where everyone gets on and chats to one another, awkwardness isn't fun!

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