30 year old woman dating 50 year old man
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New Here? Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. Thanks for visiting! New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. I am a year-old woman who is dating a year-old man.
It is the easiest relationship I have ever been in. This is a big departure from my past relationships where the main attractions for me tended to be adventure, talent, and substance abuse instead of common values and lifestyles — in other words, I liked to date musicians. We began seeing each other six months ago, so it is still a relatively young relationship.
However, Boyfriend and I see eye-to-eye in the way we behave towards each other and in terms of what type of future we might have together. We are taking it slowly. He respects me and feels lucky to be with me, and I feel the same way. When I told him that that would probably make me fall away from him slowly due to my desire to have a kid or two, he seemed touched that I would ever consider having kids with him, and very sincerely said that he loves children.
While this is not currently a major issue for us, I have concerns in my mind about marrying someone who will probably die well before me, and who would not be as mobile as a younger man with young children. What do I need to think about while moving forward with him? What does that mean for you? Then you have to go through the emotional hell of leaving a man you love in every way so that you can fulfill your dream of becoming a mother.
Especially when you were given fair warning — the man said he had been considering a vasectomy for years! You still need to find someone to fall in love with. That could take years! And then you have to get pregnant and have it stick. And you know what happens when you get pregnant at 35? As teenagers? Sure, of course.
Some people live quality lives until their 70s and some even through their 90s, and in the next thirty or forty years, those who are living quality lives as nonagenarians will increase substantially. We never know when our time is up or what might happen to us to make the time we have left here less enjoyable, productive, and healthy.
I have a friend that is going through this right now. She had thought earlier on in the relationship that she would be ok with never having kids of her own. He is an amazing guy, they love each other deeply, and they are so well matched in every way but this one. ReginaRey April 16, , 9: I want to point out, additionally, that even if he DOES want children, you still have quite a lot of thinking to do.
With children, necessarily follows a need for money. At 50, does your boyfriend have dreams of retiring any time in the next two and a half decades? Given that your boyfriend is much older than my dad was, is he willing to continue working for at least 18 years after you have a baby? Does he feel ready and energetic enough to do that? And what if you wanted more than one child? Would he be prepared to work until THAT child was at least 18? So into his mid or even late 70s? Would it be possible for you to be the sole breadwinner while he stayed home with the kids?
Or would both of you need to work? What kind of a life did he envision for himself at that age, and does having kids with you seem a better path than the life he envisioned? And health is, of course, always a concern. As Wendy said, people can die suddenly at any age, but the risk of dying of some health-related tragedy greatly increases with age, of course. Are you ready and willing to become the person who primarily cares for a teenager and a senior citizen at the same time?
How does HE feel about the possibility of something like that? Listen, the common denominator is that you need to really, seriously TALK to him about all of these things. It can be done, if both of you are really, really sure about it and are aware of and ready to face any difficulties that may arise. Flake April 16, , 9: Nadine April 16, , 9: ReginaRey April 16, , Brad April 16, , AndreaMarie April 16, , 1: CatsMeow April 16, , 2: Its absurd to me.
If you have the means and choose to do that, thats a lucky kid and a loving parent. ReginaRey April 16, , 2: Retirement is always supposed to be the priority. SweetsAndBeats April 16, , 5: That leaves way too large a space for things to go wrong. When my parents got divorced, my dad was ordered to pay for half of college for both me and my brother. It seems to be becoming a societal expectation.
Brad April 16, , 8: The legal age of adulthood is 18 and at that point all legal obligations should cease. Rachel April 16, , 9: So if your parents are divorced, they should both be involved in that. Mandanoa April 17, , I have to agree with Rachel on this. Luckily I received a lot of merit based scholarships and my parents helped me out but if they had chosen not to I would have walked away with a lot more debit thru no fault of my own.
But my parents pay for my living expenses so I can get out faster, which means fewer loans. Nadine April 16, , 2: Nadine April 17, , 8: Well, many do work through college, get scholarships, and take out loans, but given the cost of tuition now its all but impossible to fully put yourself through school without incurring massive amounts of debt. For our parents, yeah, you could work full time each summer summer, have a part time job during the winter, and be able to finish without obtaining a mountain of debt.
Not so much anymore. Its a shame a lot of young adults start their professional lives already under tens of thousands of dollars of debt. FireStar April 16, , 5: I paid for mine. My husband paid for his. There was never an expectation of anything else in wither home. My parents paid for my undergraduate education well, I did have some merit scholarships and I worked full time every summer. Or rather, an investment fund was established when I was born with the intent of it paying for my education 18 years later.
I agree that when kids goof off on their parents dime, its a problem. There were about six months I did work and take classes, and it was hard. If it was necessary I could have made it work, but I am so grateful my parents told me to stop and focus on school instead. It made my grades much better. I am so grateful I was able to graduate with no debt when so many of my peers are buried, absolutely buried with it.
If parents can ease the financial burden for their children, it really helps out. But the cash should come with some strings. Grades slip, the money stops flowing. Yea, you bring up a really good set of points. Haha, yes. CatsMeow April 16, , 8: My parents paid for mine. I did one year for free at the community college, completed summer classes at the community college, and graduated a semester early. Anna April 16, , 3: My dad is 15 yrs older than my mom and I am one of 4 children.
When I was born, my dad was already He was with his employer for 30 years and put away a lot of money in savings.
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Jenny is a girl who loves many things. She loves street foods, traveling, nature, music, cats, and dogs! Now, I have to spill a secret. I have had crushes on my professors back in my college days. And, when I say "older," I mean guys who are years older than I am and not the "old" retired type. I am always drawn to them; maybe it is their maturity or the way they express their opinions on difficult topics and challenge me mentally, or it is the way they carry themselves, or maybe it is because they are already self-sufficient. Some people tell me that I may just be looking for a father-figure, but I am not. There are a lot of good reasons why some women like me prefer older men, and I am going to enumerate some of them here. There are many women out there who seek out and build relationships with older men, so much so that there is a term for it in the western world, the May—December romance. While many people may look down at couples that have a significant age gap between them, there are some very legitimate reasons why women seek out older men to have romantic relationships with.
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