My ex is dating someone just like me

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Why is my ex dating someone just like me!?

Your ex broke up with you and left you heartbroken. And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. However, you are still not convinced. Your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. And the thought of it just being a rebound relationship is very comforting.

The first sign is quite obvious. Some people jump from one relationship to another without waiting at all. On the other hand, it could be that your ex waited months before entering the new relationship and it could still be a rebound depending if they never really got over you. If their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together.

You will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. A rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex. Another way to describe a rebound relationship is an attempt to avoid the pain of the breakup. Being intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. After a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty.

A rebound relationship gives you hope. It gives you a chance to feel that level of intimacy again. It gives you hope to fill that empty feeling inside you. This is the reason why most of the rebound relationships seem to move so fast. Because a rebound relationship is an attempt to reach the level of intimacy that only long-term relationships have.

Suppose the name of your ex is Jane. Jane feels empty after she left you. She has an old friend Garry who comforts her, she finds herself attracted to him. She feels that perhaps this guy can make all her pain and the emptiness go away. So she starts dating him. Whenever she is with him, her mind is not thinking about the breakup and you. But still whenever she is alone, the pain comes back. She thinks if Garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to Garry and perhaps forget you.

So they start sleeping together. Even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. At this point, most people realize that this new relationship will not bring them the peace and happiness they were hoping it would. But Jane is having a hard time accepting that. She thinks that the new relationship, despite not being what she expected, is still giving her some level of comfort.

She continues her relationship, in hope that her level of intimacy with Garry will increase and the empty feeling inside her will slowly go away. She makes pathetic attempts to move the relationship faster hoping that she can gain the same level of intimacy that comes from long-term relationship. But yet, here she is, rushing a relationship faster than a speeding bullet. The story of Jane demonstrates a classic rebound behavior. Eventually, Jane would breakup with Garry and will try to deal with her breakup pain.

She might feel that she is in love with Garry because Garry provides her with comfort and an escape from the pain that she desires deeply. Garry is a temporary solution that is alleviating the pain, but he is not the cure. But soon enough, she will realize her relationship with Garry for what it is. A rebound. She is still empty and she can only be at peace with herself when she decides to face the breakup pain.

And after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. In some cases, your ex will choose someone who is completely opposite of you in every possible way. This is again, very common rebound behavior. The reason behind this behavior is overcompensation. They think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness.

Someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. Someone who is not even their type. They are not thinking of a long-term relationship. They are thinking of a short term rebound relationship which will hopefully help them get over the breakup. A very common sign of a rebound relationship is whether or not they are trying to rub in your face. One of the most common indicators of this behavior is their social media profile Facebook, twitter etc. Of course, this behavior is subjective.

You know your ex better than anyone, so you are the best judge if they are doing it to rub it in your face or not. One of the examples of this social media behavior that I want to share came from one of my readers. She posted on his Facebook wall whether or not he wants to move to Australia with her next year when she wants to do her PhD. How can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? She always said she wanted someone who has some goals in life.

First of all, which couple discusses big life decision on their Facebook wall? She clearly posted this message for her ex to see. Which shows she is not over him and is most probably in a rebound. On the other end of the spectrum, there are exes who will try to hide their new relationship from you. This is fairly uncommon and it could mean two things. After all, you know your ex and your situation better than anyone else.

If they are in a rebound, you still have to apply the no contact rule and follow the 5-step plan. If you are looking to get your ex girlfriend or ex wife back, then you should check out this article. It will be the most comprehensive guide you will ever read and it will give you objectives you can set for yourself as you are moving forward in this journey to get your ex girlfriend back.

In addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex boyfriend is in another relationship. Scroll down to read the comments. Before commenting, read commenting guidelines. He already has a new girlfriend after 2 months. Is this a rebound? He seems so in love. I wonder why? So me and my ex have been around 1 year but things started coming down from half year, i started talking to my ex while having something serious with my boyfriend, and he felt sad a lot and begged me to stop it, i didnt listen and he got tired of begging so he broke up with me and inmediately started having something with a girl, he is a serious and mature guy so i cant tell if it is a rebound relationship, also his new girlfriend is far away from him so that makes it a long distant relationship.

I made a huge mistake on begging him because i was devastated but he still comforted me and promised to get back with me, the only reason he hasnt done it is because he doesnt want to hurt his new girlfriend feelings. What should i do. It is likely a rebound, and you're probably going to have let him make a decision on his own by being patient and not acting needy in the meantime.

Basically the girl i dated ended things with me to go back to her ex. I'm very confused because I dont know if i was the rebound or is he? She dated me in july after breaking up with her ex in april It's a little hard to tell for certain and it would depend on who she feels more connected to at the end of the day. Based on the situation though, there's a possibility that you were the rebound, because even though she gave more to you, she still felt connected enough to her ex to end up leaving the relationship to be with him.

What will i do? Do I still need to hold on? Has there ever been a consideration to reduce the distance and begin living together eventually, considering that you have a 2 year old daughter with him? If distance is the issue here which caused him to get intimate with someone else, this is something that has to be considered before you think about winning him back. Also, you'll have to do what's best for you and your kid, and I personally wouldn't recommend simply holding on for the sake of it.

I was in a 3 year relationship. We parted ways back in March , but it wasn't a "real" breakup. We just decided we didn't get along anymore and would be better off on our own, which was the stupidest thing to do. We kept on seeing each other, calling, texting, etc. This changed in June. I noticed a change in her approach, as if her focus shifted. She didn't speak to me the way she used to and kept breaking up text conversations in the middle. I felt she was slipping away, but did nothing about it.

I reached out like three times and then my pride took over and I was like: I won't.

I thought my ex was totally over me and ready to move on, but if that's the case, why is he dating my doppelganger? It doesn't make sense!. He likes your type. However, since you both are broken up, he had to find some body else like you. At the same time, since he is seeing someone, you should.

When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me. The fix: My advice is to block them both the second the status appears.

We wear the same style of clothing and have the same hairstyle and facial shape. It makes me feel like he was just dating me to fulfill some fantasy.

Like, same hair, same nose, same everything. It was SO awkward last time I saw him which was this past december btw!

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Your ex broke up with you and left you heartbroken. And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. However, you are still not convinced. Your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. And the thought of it just being a rebound relationship is very comforting. The first sign is quite obvious. Some people jump from one relationship to another without waiting at all. On the other hand, it could be that your ex waited months before entering the new relationship and it could still be a rebound depending if they never really got over you.

My question is this: I think this new girl is the recipient of feelings I developed for the last one.

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He likes your type. However, since you both are broken up, he had to find some body else like you. At the same time, since he is seeing someone , you should tell him that much as you would like to get back with him, you can not hurt the other girl. Look, most probably a rebound, he wants to fill the empty space in his mind but he can't really be true with himself, you need to ley him go, cut all contact, he needs to play fool by himself and dont let him drag you in his drama. If you want him back you have to give some time to miss you and you need to recover and improve yourself first. Its even better when they go out find someone who acts like you then gives them your stuff to try to recreate you. Like clothing, Shampoo and body spray, playing your song with them. I told him I still liked him and he said he wanted to be mates so I told him I needed space and he got really angry about it. Why is my ex dating someone just like me!? Guy's Behavior. My ex and I broke up 2 months ago.. Most Helpful Guy.

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Now, this part of my series on very specific things that people experience with their exes when trying to get back together that cause a lot of frustration and difficulty. But if you truly believe that your ex would be better off with you then I think that you at least owe them the opportunity to make that choice for themselves rather than to make that choice for them by just giving them no choice, right? Oftentimes, when people get into a relationship directly after breaking up or ending a previous relationship, they tend to speed that new relationship up very quickly so that it sort of looks like the previous relationship. They might elevate that new relationship to levels of commitment that were similar to the levels of commitment that maybe they had with you. For example, maybe it took the two of you six months or a year to move in together but they are moving in together with their new partner after only a couple of weeks. Is it because their new love is true and it means something more than yours did?

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Thank you for your advice. I'm completely focusing on myself for now, and dragging myself out of this mess. If she ever does come back into contact with me I would be even more confused and unsure what to do, cause she has chucked me away like i'm worthless garbage and has hurt me more than i could probably say. R elationship T alk. Why is my ex dating someone who looks exactly like me? By Guest, 5 years ago on Dating.

So your ex is gone — and he left you with a broken heart. Nobody moves on and finds someone new that quickly. Of course, if he cheated on you with another woman and started dating her right after you broke up, it might be more serious than a rebound. Other than that situation, the easy rule of thumb is that the longer he waited, the less likely it is to be a rebound relationship. This is a sign you can use to narrow down the probability that your ex is in a rebound relationship very quickly.

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