First time dating another girl

She was beautiful, intelligent, funny, cool, and a sexual dynamo. And she was mine. Or so I thought…. Sure, that made all the difference. I felt SO much better.

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All rights reserved. Personally, two years into my first-ever lesbian relationship, I'm very happy to take the time to acknowledge the amazing lesbians out there in the world — my girlfriend included. And, as someone who has had sex with women but only dated men before this relationship, I appreciate being in a lesbian relationship all the more. Firstly, I'm a bisexual and proud of it. And being in a lesbian relationship in no way takes away from the fact that I am a bisexual — there is no acceptance of bi erasure here.

Still bi. Still here. Still proud. But what being in a lesbian relationship has done is made me realize how effing amazing being in a lesbian relationship is. Because there are a lot of differences between dating a man and dating a woman and most of them make me so freaking grateful that the person I fell for is a fellow femme. So if you've ever thought about acting out your sapphic leanings and switching your Tinder search to women, here are some factors worth considering. I hate the cheque dance on dates.

The idea that I shouldn't pay is a patronizing throwback to when women were, you know, basically property. I don't care that it's tradition, I find it really uncomfortable and a little insulting when someone acts like I shouldn't pay. With a woman, it's not awkward at all or at least, just the normal amount of money awkwardness. I was sick of praising someone for being a feminist or it feeling like a deliberate choice when my needs were valued as much as they were.

In a hetero relationship, you're always encountering gender norms — whether adhering to or ignoring them. OK, it's not all good. There will be blood. A lot of blood. But luckily no squeamishness around it — and there's almost always a spare tampon laying around. Our apartment is per-cent tampons. Like I said, some things are harder with women. I was actually way more self-conscious dating women than dating men. Even though I think of men as being more judgmental, feeling like there is a more direct comparison between you and your partner was tough at first.

But once I got over it, I've never felt more confident than when I've been dating a woman. There's no micromanaging a man's feelings. There's no stress of being the only person who notices that you need to buy toilet paper or that you need to buy a birthday gift. No praising someone because they did a single effing dish after dinner. There's no silent resentment brewing over housework or errands, because we both come at things from the same place — the burden is genuinely split, rather than having to tell someone what to do and feeling like a nag.

I know, I know — NotAllMen. I'm making a major generalization here based on my personal experience with a handful of men and my current experience with one awesome-ass lady. If you've got yourself a man who puts in that mental labour, you're killing it. Have him tell his friends. Encourage him to lead a seminar. This isn't just me and my girlfriend — it's science. Lesbians have more orgasms than anyone else. The home-court advantage definitely holds true but it's more than that. Because nobody's orgasm is considered the "main event," you both get a lot of attention.

Oh, and because there's no male orgasm for a big finish, it means sex can just kind of keep going It's awesome. I know many men are receptive to sensitive conversations, and some men can even be MORE emotional than their female SOs, but so many of my friends are scared of looking "emotional" to their boyfriends. They don't want to be a bother or, worse, be dumped for being "hysterical.

Now, my girlfriend and I don't meet the lesbian stereotype of sitting around talking about our feelings for hours — that would be boring. But I feel totally secure mentioning if something's bugging or upsetting me, no matter how small. It means we deal with issues as they come up, before we're stressed to breaking point. This is the bottom line — and the most important part of dating a woman. Sure, part of it is because my girlfriend is particularly amazing, but in my experience, dating a woman has meant feeling like it's a genuine, equal partnership.

We come at things from the same place. Nobody's career is more important. Nobody is the 'head' of our relationship. Nobody is expected to do thankless tasks. Our future plans and wants and dreams matter equally. Of course there are men out there who are amazing people and make amazing partners — and some women who are selfish as hell. But I've found that, while dating a woman, there's so much more equality and understanding. I feel like an equal partner in my relationship — and that's just how it should be.

This article was originally published on Bellesa. Get top stories and blog posts emailed to me each day. Newsletters may offer personalized content or advertisements. Learn more. All Sections. Parents Alyson Schafer Baby Names. Video Salute Build. Blogs Blog Voices. Martin Dimitrov via Getty Images. No feeling awkward about who pays I hate the cheque dance on dates. With two women, you just get to sidestep them completely. The potential for body-image issues Like I said, some things are harder with women.

Someone putting in the same mental labour you do THIS. This is the best thing ever. More from Bellesa: Street harassment This one sucks. I can't even tell you. But you learn to live with it. More orgasms This isn't just me and my girlfriend — it's science. You don't need to feel like you're being over-emotional for expressing basic emotions I know many men are receptive to sensitive conversations, and some men can even be MORE emotional than their female SOs, but so many of my friends are scared of looking "emotional" to their boyfriends.

Feeling like a genuine partner This is the bottom line — and the most important part of dating a woman. Also on HuffPost: Blogs lesbian relationship Living women dating women. President's Choice Recalls Jarred Sauces.

Personally, two years into my first-ever lesbian relationship, I'm very happy to take the time to acknowledge the amazing lesbians out there in. But now it's my first relationship with a woman, and it's interesting to see the 5 Things That Happen When You Date A Woman For The First Time attitude that comes from waiters and other people I meet when out. At one of.

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It doesn't matter if you have a ton of experience with guys or very little, dating someone of the same sex is a change. It's just a different thing, even if it is in the best way ever. And there are certain things that happen, and that you think when you start dating someone of the same sex for the first time. You stress about labels. You might wonder if you should call yourself something like bisexual, queer, or heteroflexible.

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Maybe it's a friend whose tequila-fuelled "I love yooooooous! Or perhaps it's that woman who always makes a point of sitting next to you at yoga and who picked your car keys up with a wink when you dropped them after class last week. It could be that you've started to re-watch old episodes of Mad Men and you know deep down it's only for Christina Hendricks. Whatever it is that's making you question your sexuality, try not to push it out of your mind. That way lies madness. There is no need to lie awake until 5am watching The L Word on repeat and asking yourself "Am I bi then? Am I bi then? It's not like you have five working days to fill in a form or face a penalty charge. If you decide you may want to explore your feelings further, respect who you explore them with.

When I started dating the first woman I ever dated shout out to my wife , I was moderately terrified. There are so many unspoken rules, it would take a cryptologist to decipher them.

Experimenting with someone of the same sex is thankfully less taboo than it's ever been. And according to a new survey from the sex toy company Adam and Eve, 30 percent of women have done just that. And 19 percent of men surveyed said they've experimented with other men. While this survey didn't ask respondents whether they identify as LGBT, a National Health Statistics report from earlier this year that found

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The definitive answer so we never have to answer again: Hey anyone want a little girl-on-girl culture … in your pants? Hey are you a girl who likes girls? Do you want those girls to come over and maybe spend the night? Also; a cartoonist. Really you have to see the cartoons. If you can speed date, you should! And to help you out, we reached deep into our community and compiled some tips and blurbs to get you through the wilderness. Are you starting to feel a little anxious? Is everyone starting to look like your type?

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Imagine your very own meet-cute: The stranger lets you take the cup, and her act of generosity prompts a conversation between the two of you. You start running into her at the coffee shop every day, and your conversations get longer and longer. A look of surprised delight crosses her face and, beaming, she says yes. Men and masculine-identified people are supposed to be assertive, while women and feminine-identified people are supposed to be passive — and non-binary people are rarely acknowledged at all. Anything else is out of the norm.

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All rights reserved. Personally, two years into my first-ever lesbian relationship, I'm very happy to take the time to acknowledge the amazing lesbians out there in the world — my girlfriend included. And, as someone who has had sex with women but only dated men before this relationship, I appreciate being in a lesbian relationship all the more. Firstly, I'm a bisexual and proud of it. And being in a lesbian relationship in no way takes away from the fact that I am a bisexual — there is no acceptance of bi erasure here. Still bi.

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You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: Who could be better at seduction than a woman? I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. For the love of getting laid, stop telling dates about your exes! Just say it.

I'm bisexual and I've only had a couple of serious relationships ever — until now, they've been with men. But now it's my first relationship with a woman , and it's interesting to see the difference. I find it a little strange, because many bisexual people will have experienced lots of anti-bisexual prejudice and skepticism, but if I'm honest I haven't really. I mean, there are some things I've dealt with— assumptions of infidelity or indecision— but for the most part there's been a whole lot of heteronormative privilege I've experienced because most of my relationships have been with men. It's just happened that way.

This summer, the Sex Diaries will appear on the Cut as a special edition. Check back Tuesdays for your weekly peek behind doors left slightly ajar. I get compulsive. I used to be so much more social! I walk around Red Hook trying to find a nice house gift for tonight. But, for me, having a boyfriend does not equal happiness. That is not how I see the world.

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