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Dating Someone with Schizoaffective Disorder

Subscribe To Mental Health. Dating Someone with Schizoaffective Disorder. Hi, all. My boyfriend was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder in the last year and has been hospitalized twice in the past 6 months over this. He is working on getting medicated properly, but it's been a lot of trial and error thus far. Every few months he suffers a bad "episode" and has auditory hallucinations and extreme paranoia.

The voices tell him to harm himself and he acted on it prior to his last hospital stay. Thankfully I came home in time and was able to stop him. Since the last stint in the hospital he's seemed fantastic, but last night had an episode that really concerned me because he was ready to go to the hospital again. He has only been at his current job for 5 months and already had one week-long hospital stay. My concern is that if he deals with every episode by going to the hospital that he's going to lose his job.

This would be detrimental to both of us because we live together. The episodes do pass after several hours so I didn't want him to go to the hospital and end up stuck there for another five days which would seriously risk his job. He got mad at me and said I cared more about his job than I did for his well being, which is not true. I was there to watch him and make sure he didn't do anything to himself so I figured it would be okay if we didn't go. The reason I am posting is because I really don't know what the correct way to deal with this is.

When he's having an episode there isn't anything I can do to make it stop. When things are getting bad and he says he wants to go to the hospital do I do it? He's not in his right mind during the episodes so I question if he really knows what is best for him. It's scary and I'm at a loss. I do my best to be there for him if he wants to talk about what's going on during the episode. When he's having one I am sure to be with him at ALL times just in case he does decide to act on what the voices tell him.

I just don't know. Thanksfully, he managed to get to sleep last night and was perfectly fine. The episode passed and he was thankful that I didn't listen to him about going to the hospital. This is all very confusing and new to me You boyfriend is blessed to have someone like you around who cares for him. Have you talked with his doctor? I know it can be a scary time. My daughter had auditory hallucinations and practiced self-harm for a few years, so I know how frightening it can be.

I think a talk with his doctor would help. Mega hugs to you. Edit to add: I also read everything I could find online about this disorder. It really did help me understand a lot of things. Thanks, Suki. My boyfriend spoke to his doctor this morning after I wrote my post and his doctor admonished him for letting me talk him into not going to the hospital.

Of course, now I'm wary about speaking to the doctor, but I guess I should. He will have better insight than anyone. I'm going to reserach online also. Good suggestions all around. I fear for your safety. He is lucky to have someone to stick by him. I totally understand your feelings about him not losing his job. I totally believe you when you say that you do not care more about his job than him.

I understand how important money is. Because he can get violent I would take him in to the hospital. One day you might not be able to control him. But it's hard for me to say because he needs you but I am so worried that he could hurt you. I am not saying to leave him but maybe living separate might be the best. There is no one around at mid night except you and him and that sets an alarm off for me. Try not worry about the job. Money does have a way of working out.

Even though the math says different Good luck and above all be safe. I have never thought about him hurting me. Since this started, all of his auditory hallucinations have been telling him to harm himself and never another person, but I suppose that could change. If he ever were to do anything to me, I don't know if our relationship would survive That said, I'm not going to worry about him harming me until I have to. I talked to my bf a moment ago and I am going to come with him to his next doctors appointment so that I can get some insight on what to do during the episodes.

I also learned about a 24 hour emergency mental health facility that can be used to stabilize him during an episode. If they can't stabilize him, they send him to the hospital. This is a much better option than taking him to the emergency room which pretty much guarantees him a 5 day stay. Coffee, you're right about money having a way of working itself out.

I could afford everything on my own, but it would be a big lifestyle adjustment and struggle for me. It's so hard to know what is right to do when so many factors come into play. I'm hopeful that speaking with the doctor results in something positive and not scolding me for not taking him to the hospital last night. I doubt the doctor will scold you. I'm sure he knows that this is an unusual situation and that you don't have any experience with it. That clinic sounds great! The clinic does sound great!

Apparently during the Kennedy administration they made it mandatory that each county have a emergency mental health clinic. Things I wish I knew months ago! With his medical history. Disability may be an option? Maybe work stresses him out anyway. Mental illness is tricky to get approved. However, a friend of mine had no troubles because of the medical history.

Hard for them to argue against multiple hospitals stays and diagnosis like that. A plus, he'll be available for housecleaning and laundry! That's a thought. My daughter was able to get SSI She also gets a check each month to help with expenses. It's not a lot, but it's much better than nothing coming in at all. If he has proof of all the hospital stays and doctor appointments, that could qualify him.

My daughter was able to get it on her first try. I was prepared for a fight, but it was actually pretty easy. Anyway, it's a thought. LOL Alizerin. He had brain cancer when he was a child and it resulted in a lot of problems. Sometimes I wonder if the schizoaffective disorder has anything to do with the tumor he had removed. Where he had the tumor is the area of the brain responsible for auditory things. Makes sense kinda, eh?

He's been hesitant to go for disability because he fears sitting around the house all day doing nothing and going nuts from boredom. Being depressed is what brings on the episodes and I can't imagine him sitting around all day would help his depression. Not sure if there is a disability option where he could work part time Work does stress him out. Too much stress actually makes him have seizures He has so many medical things on his plate Feels good being able to talk about this to someone other than his mother!

Well, he wouldn't have to go on full disability.

Jun 6, You may not know what symptoms and challenges to expect when loving someone with schizoaffective disorder, but the more you know, the. Jun 29, Someone with schizoaffective disorder may find that their thoughts are often racing or that things around them are moving too fast. It becomes.

As if dating isn't already tough enough, schizoaffective hypomania makes dating and love even harder. Those of us with schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder have a lot to deal with when dating. But perils extend beyond that point and include schizoaffective hypomania triggered by the excitement of a first date. Which begs the question, how, exactly, does someone with schizoaffective disorder differentiate between hypomania and the perfectly normal things one feels when falling in love?

But, with the right support, it is possible to establish positive patterns so these challenges can become opportunities for even greater personal strength and connection.

Schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder and marriage can sure be challenging. My Great Aunt Elsie, who passed away about a year ago, used to use her German grandma vice grip to pull my husband, Tom, down to her eye level at family gatherings.

Keeping Your Relationship Strong After a Schizophrenia Diagnosis

Dating during your twenties is an experience in itself, but when you live with a severely stigmatized condition like bipolar disorder, dating can really be a challenge. As a year-old mental health advocate who is publicly open about her life with bipolar II disorder, I have often experienced stigma in my dating life. Bipolar disorder is a part of me, and I am not ashamed of my condition, in fact, it is the opposite, I embrace it. However, dating—when you live with a mental health condition—can be complicated: When should you tell your date about your diagnosis?

15 things to know before dating someone with schizophrenia

Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Originally Posted by Mikelee Yep in the midst of all of this I do care about this girl.. I'd feel terrible to know that she isn't doing well and I could help. And I like her as a person. There is a commonality in a lot of things in life and chemistry that's there. It has been an emotional rollercoaster though with the mood changes.

What I lack in culinary expertise and concentration I more than make up for in a caring nature and sensitivity. While you should never avoid dating someone with schizophrenia because of tabloid headlines or bleak Hollywood stereotypes, there are some things here you may like to weigh up before getting involved further.

I have been in a relationship for five years with a man who was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, depression with psychotic features. For the most part, his disorder does not have a negative impact on our relationship. He has trouble keeping his place clean and he is slow to take actions that move his life forward in positive directions.

Schizoaffective disorder and relationships

Schizoaffective disorder is thought to be a unique combination of schizophrenia and a mood disorder like bipolar , presenting with symptoms like difficulty communicating, episodes of depression, delusions, and even hallucinations. Before the onset of my mental illness, I was outgoing and had a vibrant social life. I was the captain of the high school football team and felt committed to my schoolwork. The change was stark. In my quest to recover my health and have a fuller life, I began talk therapy at age 25, and resolved to improve my cognitive abilities and start to define life goals. I had a full-time job and was saving money. I was 27 and still living at home which was a drawback, but my confidence was growing. The first few dates I went on were fun and relatively laid-back. Deep down, though, I was drowning in insecurities. Because I had a reading disability, my job was an entry-level position in retail where I made very little money. There were countless things I worried about. That relationship only lasted about two months.

The Challenges of Schizoaffective Disorder and Relationships

Subscribe To Mental Health. Dating Someone with Schizoaffective Disorder. Hi, all. My boyfriend was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder in the last year and has been hospitalized twice in the past 6 months over this. He is working on getting medicated properly, but it's been a lot of trial and error thus far. Every few months he suffers a bad "episode" and has auditory hallucinations and extreme paranoia.

Keeping Your Relationship Strong After a Schizophrenia Diagnosis

Especially when you can keep a balanced perspective, you can support them as they navigate their recovery journey. As unpredictable as their moods and behaviors may be, your partner is still the person you know and love. As confused as you may feel along the relationship path, there is always hope and generous resources for recovery are available if you know where to look. With expert clinical and psychological treatment and with your loving support, they can build the life they want moving forward. When loving someone with schizoaffective disorder, you can benefit—and help your partner at the same time—by keeping one hand on the things you can know and feel empowered by, and keeping the other hand open to the uncertainties that do not need to cancel out all that is positive and productive. Schizoaffective disorder is a complex diagnosis because of the combination of schizophrenia symptoms and disordered mood symptoms. Consider, for instance, how these symptoms occur independently—and also how they can overlap.

Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective Disorder, and Marriage

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Boyfriend Has Schizoaffective Disorder

I started dating this gentleman that told me on the second date that he has Schizoaffective disorder. I thought I would read up on it and would give it a chance before I made a decision before to end things. Things were going great, things were little off only because he has not really have dated many girls, and I am assuming it was because of his Mental Illness. We would discuss them and of course he would say that his family never did that, but we are in a dating relationship and some things are treated differently amount relationships among family members and dating relationships. Well, after that the little fights started over silly things, I just let them go, they were not big deal, he would apologize for them and I had forgotten about it already. Told him no worries. Shortly after that they were getting more and more, he wanted to break up every weekend and then come back.

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