Dating someone with a head injury
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Traumatic Brain Injury and Intimate Relationships: What You Need to Know
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Gwendolyn Joined: Words are my vocation and my avocation. I was married to a man for 25 years who wouldn't talk to me and it was one reason I eventually left him. In a social setting, I would have unlimited patience to converse with someone who has problems conversing, but I don't think that I have the patience to develop a relationship with someone who couldn't converse fluently with me. I was ill a couple of years ago and have experienced something similar to this on I think a much smaller scale.
One of the things I discovered was that in my situation, the higher you were functioning before your illness or injury, the longer it takes for the brain to reconnect the pathways to the information in it. A relationships with someone whose cognitive ability is going to improve would be a far different situation from someone whose abilities today are as good as they are going to get. Also, you are talking about slower, not complete inability so it's not like you cannot have conversations, you would just need to be the type of person that could slow yourself down.
I have 1st hand experience with my dad. He had a stroke and he could speak but for example he could not say NAMES, the would call me " my daughter, the eldest, instead of "Mary" for ex. His intelligence was intact, how to communicate was a bit impaired. CompletelyDone Joined: The morning of the motor vehicle accident, he had complained to his Mom about soreness under the arms. His injuries were so severe that he literally amazed the doctors by surviving the accident for more than 48 hours although he remained in a coma for 10 months.
They discovered that his soreness under the arms was Hodgkins Lymphoma and while he recovered from the accident, he was also forced to undergo radical chemotherapy treatments. His father was decapitated in the accident and he also went through the grief process when he awoke from his coma. He is now 35 years old, mobile with the exception of some paralysis in his left side and prone to mood swings.
Prior to the accident, he had been of university-level genius. After the accident, his amnesia left him floundering for information. I have to tell you OP that for all the years I've been walking this earth, I have never met such a beautiful inside and out person as my son-in-law. He has a spiritual vitality that shines from deep in his eyes and he's always laughing about something. He has been the only Dad my grandson has ever known for 7 years now and he has an uncanny ability to share my grandson's world.
As a partner to my daughter, I could hope for no one better. We all "slow down" for him with a great deal of appreciation that he's even with us after all that he has been through. I admire and respect his "uncommon valour" As a result of knowing and loving my son-in-law, I have become a better person and I think everyone who knows him would say that He is a blessing to our family and if I could meet someone like him, I would feel even more blessed to slow down to share the special loving qualities of someone who has perhaps, already touched heaven but came back to share it with us.
They are more than worth our having to slow down or perhaps, rewind from time to time. A Moment in Time Joined: Today, I still have problems with my memory but i also tell people of this and if they understand this fine, if they have a problem with it then they are not people that i want in my life. People who do have problems with their speach due to a head injury hopefully are seeing a Speech Therapist and hopefully do improve over time, but it does take a special person to have the patience to understand the conversation and I think in this day and age of wanting a lot of things instantly it would be challenging for that person to find a stranger who would be.
Not impossible though as there are amazing people out there who work with disabled people and i have great gratitude towards them as those people had a big impact on my life and getting me to where i am today. I am looking for a life partner. He does not have to be anywhere even close to perfect because I am very far away from perfect myself. IgorFrankensteen Joined: The various people who have described a variety of brain injury results have given a pretty complete cross section of what can happen.
I have a severely handicapped son, who cannot speak, among other things. Someone who has a brain injury in their past, which is either stable or improving, would not give me pause in considering whether to get involved with them or not. What actual current personality they have, would. As for having to wait for someone to formulate what they want to say, that's only a problem in tight circumstances.
One thing I DO expect of any one with a handicap, is that they accept that it is they who have it. What I mean by that, is encapsulated in what I tell my children with their various challenges: In the case of someone who can't speak their minds quickly, I would need them to be able to allow others to take point when rapid decisions had to be made, without resentment.
We all have limitations, even those of us who are officially 'normal. Impossible Made Possible Joined: But you too must be open to someone who also comes with a situation which requires patience, kindness, and understanding. Vannili Joined: I don't know about you, but my feelings toward that person is compassion and pity, but I will not be turn on the level of romantically involve with that person. Strings6 Joined: People should stop looking at whats "wrong" with someone and start looking at whats great about them.
What they have that you don't, the happiness that radiates from them. Maybe even put yourself in their position and ask the question: How would I feel about people judging me because I can't pronounce a word correctly or that my arm doesn't work like theirs, my body twitches, slurred speech and so on? Many people do not see how beautiful the world is and do not appreciate the life they have until something happens and threatens their existence.
My question to you is: Why do people wait for tragedy to realise how precious life is and how wonderful it can be? If you stop worrying about insignificant things and start appreciating the actual things we have, life suddenly becomes a much better place to live. Everyone is equal and still human, just different and those differences can vary greatly but, underneath, they still have everything that makes them human.
Me personally? Probably not. I don't have that extra level of patience and understanding when it comes to dating. Others do. Within an established relationship-- that's a different story. Do you even know what thread you are on? This is a thread about people who have brain injuries not about game playing. I wouldn't date someone over weight. I wouldn't date someone without a college education.
Hell, I won't even talk to people who refuse to put a pic up or only have those head shots that just scream "Hey nothing to see below the neck, I'm not hiding anything I swear You should seriously take some time to refine your reading comprehension skills. I did not compare a brain injure to playing games, genius. I KNOW what this thread is about. I agreed with a comment made by another poster who worded our respective opinion so well that I had no need to rewrite it in my own words.
I added the line about game playing to illustrate that my tolerance for anything out-of-the-norm has become so worn that I will kick someone to the curb for mere game playing - which further demonstrates that if I am THAT impatient then obviously I wouldn't bother with someone with a brain injury. The OP isn't talking about you now is he? Get a copy of "Green Eggs and Ham" and learn to read. Happy to help. However, they will quite happily date someone that displays no visible signs of underlying psychological or physical ailments.
For starters, schizophrenia, paranoia, personality changes, mood swings etcetera can all effect a person without the need for a brain trauma to trigger them. Paranoia can come from a bad experience, bad relationship history, drugs, and so on. Schizophrenia can be brought on by drugs prescription and illegal substance , physical trauma, traumatic life events no physical trauma. There are many triggers if you like, that can bring on the symptoms of schizophrenia and nearly all other disorders, personality changes and so on.
I guess one could say; at least you know what your getting when the symptoms are visible. When there is no visible signs of mental changes then, you never know what will happen later in life or the relationship. For example: You might meet someone that appears to be of stable mind then, as the relationship progresses, that person's life begins to be restricted or controlled in some manner yes by you and you don't even realise your doing it.
After some time of this person feeling trapped and unable to make their own decisions with out being reprimanded by you, they become unpredictable, aggressive, frustrated, unresponsive, maybe even take up a destructive habit etc. Now, if this person never met you, these behaviours may have never come into play. Which suggests that you caused this personality, behavioural change in that person. Then you meet someone else and the same happens again. Then whats the famous saying?
Now, is this really the case or, are you the one that creates these behaviours in these people because of your own dysfunctional personality, behaviour or language. Most people do not have very good perceptions of their own behaviours, actions and things they say; and when someone points it out to them, they deny it and blame the other person. Just because someone has a language disorder, brain damage or the like, certainly does not automatically suggest that they will also have aggression, schizophrenia and so on.
Yeah, someone with a language disorder may get frustrated don't we all though? At the end of the day, these people are human just like you and me.
People with brain injury can improve the likelihood that their relationship will .. I have been dating someone for 3 months who had a accident 13 years ago. Having a brain injury can sometimes make people feel differently with TBI cause I think it would be easier to date someone who understands.
There has been a lot of news coverage in recent years about traumatic brain injury and how it impacts the lives of those who experience it. From training exercises to combat operations, the opportunity for injury is ever present. So, what happens when you or your partner or spouse sustains a traumatic brain injury? What should you look for? What should you expect?
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Dating and relationships are complicated for just about everyone. A brain injury can add one more level of complexity. Indeed, it can seem overwhelming at times, but there are several things a person can do to help navigate through. On Monday February 27, , at 6 p. All brain injuries are unique, as are all relationships.
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Jump to navigation. The following text is excerpted from the book, Recovering Relationships after Brain Injury: The book provides helpful information about romantic relationships and relationships with family and friends. After meeting someone you like, you might want to get to know him or her better. Dating is the next natural step in building close relationships. Many people are scared by the thought of going out with someone new. Dating can be confusing for most anyone, including persons with brain injury. For certain folks, dating is a mystery full of complex rules and strange customs. They may be unsure about what to say or do.
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Нет, существует. Я видел его в Интернете. Мои люди несколько дней пытаются его взломать. - Это зашифрованный вирус, болван; ваше счастье, что вам не удалось его вскрыть. - Но… - Сделка отменяется! - крикнул Стратмор. - Я не Северная Дакота. Нет никакой Северной Дакоты. Забудьте о ней! - Он отключил телефон и запихнул за ремень. Больше ему никто не помешает. В двенадцати тысячах миль от этого места Токуген Нуматака в полной растерянности застыл у окна своего кабинета. Сигара умами безжизненно свисала изо рта.
Сделка всей его жизни только что распалась - за каких-то несколько минут.
Я уверен. Вы должны… Сьюзан вырвала руку и посмотрела на него с возмущением. - Мне кажется, коммандер приказал вам уйти. - Но монитор. Она показывает восемнадцать… - Коммандер Стратмор велел вам уйти. - Плевал я на Стратмора! - закричал Чатрукьян, и его слова громким эхом разнеслись по шифровалке. - Мистер Чатрукьян? - послышался сверху звучный возглас.
Полуслепой, он направился в туалетную комнату. Смутные очертания тележки все еще виднелись у двери в мужской туалет, поэтому Беккер снова подошел к дамской комнате. Ему показалось, что внутри звучали какие-то голоса. Он постучал. - Hola. Тишина.
Спасибо, не стоит. Я возьму такси. - Однажды в колледже Беккер прокатился на мотоцикле и чуть не разбился. Он больше не хотел искушать судьбу, кто бы ни сидел за рулем. - Как скажете. - Лейтенант направился к двери. - Я должен выключить свет. Беккер держал коробку под мышкой.
Как он поведет машину, если они все же доберутся до. И тут в его памяти зазвучал голос одного из преподавателей Корпуса морской пехоты, подсказавший ему, что делать. Применив силу, говорил этот голос, ты столкнешься с сопротивлением. Но заставь противника думать так, как выгодно тебе, и у тебя вместо врага появится союзник. - Сьюзан, - услышал он собственный голос, - Стратмор - убийца. Ты в опасности.
Казалось, она его не слышала.
В 8 ВЕЧЕРА. В другом конце комнаты Хейл еле слышно засмеялся. Сьюзан взглянула на адресную строку сообщения. FROM: CHALECRYPTO. NSA."Introduction to Traumatic Brain Injury" by Lisa DelSignore, MD for OPENPediatrics