The new rules the dating dos and donts for the digital generation

The Rules taught a generation of women how to turn their dating misery into marriage success. Dating gurus Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider showed millions of women how 'playing hard to get' could help them capture the heart of Mr Right. Their book proved controversial, sparked worldwide debate and became a publishing phenomenon. There are now even more ways to mess up your dating life.

Deciphering Dating, Part Four - the New Rules: The Dating Dos and Don'ts for the Digital Generation

Physically find one, grab them and not let go. So to save you some time I have recently been immersing myself in the world of self-help and dating manuals, let's say it was for "research" to decipher their key points, their plan of action. If you were considering buying one to help you in your search for Mr or Mrs Right let me help you out by examining some of the most popular.

Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider writers of The Rules haven't given up hope on you, even if you did their dating manual. Presumably in getting with the modern age they have overthrown the antiquated advice that dominated the original Rules. Not really. God forbid you say something stupid. A recurring theme from the original Rules, women should never open their mouths uninvited, even then probably best to say nothing at all. Maintain an air of knowing silence, or look weird, it's up to you.

Presumably when it comes to texting you have swapped numbers, perhaps you let it slip by accident, don't do it again! And certainly don't engage in texting, lest you be marked as a hussy! Obviously the concept that the 'Digital Generation' consists of social media the clue's in the name has been forgotten before you've even got into the book. You should only ask someone out face-to-face so you can witness there horrified screams of 'No!

If you're still awake after midnight you're doing being a woman wrong, you should be getting your beauty sleep in full bed jacket and unattractive face cream. You've got an early start in the morning applying full make-up and styling hair before the postman appears. His Facebook wall of course, not his actual wall, otherwise your relationship is doomed from the start as he witnesses you dragged away by the police, Sharpie in hand.

If he's a nice boy it is unlikely he'll be at home obsessively counting the number of likes you've added to his comments. However, if from scanning his Facebook you notice a penchant for anti-semitic virals or homophobic memes definitely write on his wall. Keep writing on it. Make sure he knows he's a dick. That's brief isn't it and not at all making you sound like a sexual deviant. To be honest I think the writers were struggling at this point and it all gets a bit repetitive, summarised by;.

Obviously don't text him, tweet him or talk to him. Just shut up will you! You don't want him to realise your stupid do you? Or have fiery feminist politics, then he'll surely run for the hills. If you keep quiet he will appreciate you for the obedient little woman you are, if he's a spanner. Or he'll think you have overwhelming social anxiety and probably go and talk to someone that will actually respond with more than a fixed forward stare as if a combination of Botox and dentistry has left you paralysed.

Generally people only tend to do this when they're in a stable relationship anyway and aren't afraid their other half will faint at the sight of their imperfect wobbly bits. But don't send him half your CD collection to recover things when they're getting a bit rocky, you won't get them back. Silly me of course though, this is the digital generation, send him as many mp3s and Youtube videos as you like.

Particularly ones about cats, everyone loves cats. Again with the waiting, jeez I've got things to do without having to consciously time my tweets. Social media is meant to be 'live', of the minute, and if I have a really good cat video to share I want to share it now! Unfortunately I fear the writers ave long been lost in an antiquated land of chaperones and courting. If you break up, The New Rules answer is obviously to un-friend him, nothing says I'm so completely not bothered, better than you and a paragon of female power, than not being Facebook friends anymore.

How about don't bother, who cares, it's Facebook. Go outside and meet someone else, don't read dating manuals is the only rule you need. Get top stories and blog posts emailed to me each day. Newsletters may offer personalized content or advertisements. Learn more. All Sections. All rights reserved. Don't Talk to or Text a Guy First.

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Capturing the Heart of Mr. She is a New York University graduate. Fein is married and has two children.

Physically find one, grab them and not let go. So to save you some time I have recently been immersing myself in the world of self-help and dating manuals, let's say it was for "research" to decipher their key points, their plan of action.

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The Rules taught a generation of women how to turn their dating misery into marriage success. Dating gurus Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider showed millions of women how 'playing hard to get' could help them capture the heart of Mr Right. Their book proved controversial, sparked worldwide debate and became a publishing phenomenon. There are now even more ways to mess up your dating life. Ellen and Sherrie are regularly inundated with messages from women wanting to know:

Digital Dating: The new rules

Amid the quagmire of dating manuals, it's easy to get a tad confused with the bounty of mixed messages. Where one ostensibly helpful tome insists that he's just not that into you, another infamous book by Tracy McMillan dictates that you're single because you're a bitch, a slut, a liar, or not good enough. In fact, amid the flurry of advice, rattling in the ears like a gaggle of overly enthusiastic and helpful aunts, it's a wonder we find the opportunity to get out there and meet anyone. The internet has, of course, heralded a solution to the whole 'getting out there' quandary; now it's possible to be 'out there' in the comfort of your own home — no make-up or Spanx required. Alas, with this new development has come the death of courtship; forget dinner and a movie, in other words — you'll be lucky to get a text message that doesn't even invite you to a night out he's already having with his mates. With that, a new book could not have come sooner. Enter 'The New Rules: The Dating Dos and Don'ts for The Digital Generation', which explores how texting, Facebook, Twitter, Skype and online matchmaking sites have changed the dating landscape for better or worse. If you've been single for any length of time, you'll no doubt be already familiar with the book's Luddite predecessor, 'The Rules'.

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The Rules taught a generation of women how to turn their dating misery into marriage success. Dating gurus Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider showed millions of women how 'playing hard to get' could help them capture the heart of Mr Right. Their book proved controversial, sparked worldwide debate and became a publishing phenomenon. There are now even more ways to mess up your dating life. Ellen and Sherrie are regularly inundated with messages from women wanting to know: This is the new dating bible for Rules Girls who want to have a good time dating without getting hurt or played. Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required. To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number. Would you like to tell us about a lower price? If you are a seller for this product, would you like to suggest updates through seller support?

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